Comments on: Online Business Advice: Teflon Coating Your Heart

By: Payson

Payson — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 20:37:25 +0000

Great post Maritza, I really love it. The internet is an interesting place and, as with all parts of life, not everyone will like and appreciate you, but those that will far outweigh those that don’t. Many of us (myself included) have a tendency to focus on the one negative in a sea of positive, so if negative feedback comes our way it can take over our minds. It’s really important to remember to let it go and focus on all the wonderful things people are saying – those are the things that will motivate and inspire us to having the greatest life and sharing the most of ourselves.

Thanks for the reminder!

By: Daniela

Daniela — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:59:30 +0000

Maritza: I love your comments on teflon coating your heart.
I paticularly like the part about ” if you have an issue with someone on line, either”…. Those are rules of civility that apply to the internet as well as everyday life and for some reason a few people feel that not showing their face gives them a license to be rude. Consistency of behavior shows integrity, in my opinion. Thanks a lot for the wonderful posting.

By: Bhuvaneswari Calambakkam

Bhuvaneswari Calambakkam — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 07:46:19 +0000

Hello,

I have downloaded the think and grow rich book and am yet to finish it. Your positive thoughts in this post are the need of the day.
I have tweeted this and would like to put a link on my blog. It gives out such a nice message. I have always thought that one should remain their own selves and let others too be.

By: Kimberly Bohannon

Kimberly Bohannon — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 03:40:57 +0000

Hi Maritza,

So true! Trolls have nothing better to do. I just put on my troll kicking shoes and get moving on to the land of the giants!

Like George Foreman said, “Don’t get scared, get hungry.” ( Got that one from Jeff’s blog No troll’s going to pull me down… I have too much to offer to those who want to hear from me, and the trolls… oh, they’re too busy complaining to pay attention to how far I am going.

Great post!!!

~Kimberly

By: Louis

Louis — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 02:26:18 +0000

Great post.

I’ve noticed since going solo in my practice, I have tended to be much more sensitive to questions and criticisms despite feeling confident that I have provided the best service I could offer. Like the old saying goes, “you can’t please all the people all the time”. Your reminder was quite timely for me. Thanks.

By: Angela

Angela — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 19:47:23 +0000

Dear Maritza: you are so right, there will always be trolls. In my family we have a very important mission that we give the trolls. When they show up from time to time, we use them to remind us how wonderful and how much we need to appreciate everyone else. Teflon coating our hearts sounds like very good advice to me. Thanks a lot.

By: Jen Hinton

Jen Hinton — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:47:11 +0000

What a great way to open this topic for discussion. I most certainly have dealt with a few trolls in my time. I have learned that ignoring the ignorant is the easiest way to deal with them. I’m not sure what ever happened to adult discussions. Send an email opposed to a nasty post…I guess that what separates trolls from the rest of us!

@keepitclassyjen

By: Maritza

Maritza — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:13:01 +0000

Thanks for your thoughtful comments Britney & Rich, sending you love & hugs through cyberspace!

I definitely want to help prepare people who are just starting online for it, because it WILL happen…

Jeff & I have a file called “Best of the Best” for the good emails and positive comments.

One strategy is to keep those together so when the trolls come out, you can refer back to the good comments about how you’ve inspired people and your work does matter… because we ALL matter and we ALL make a difference. It’s just up to each one of us whether we spread positive or negative I choose positive.

By: Rich

Rich — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:55:35 +0000

Great advice for anyone who is putting themselves out there on the web. Yes, there are bottom feeders who thrive on negativity and criticism, and there are those of us who are trying to make a difference. Let’s keep it positive and constructive!

Thanks again!

By: Britney Bennett

Britney Bennett — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:50:04 +0000

It is amazing to see how rude people can be when they are anonymous. The Web permits that, and sometimes the e-mail messages and comments I receive are just horrendous.

You do need to develop a thick skin to succeed online.