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Courage & Attitude: Create the Life You Want…
Posted by: | CommentsI found this amazing woman on twitter yesterday… Someone tweeted about her and I followed and found a Grandmother with Attitude… Ruth Flowers.
She didn’t think her life was over at a certain age, she didn’t accept the limitations placed on her by other people, she’s grabbed life by the horns and is doing exactly what she wants…
The following is from Ruth’s website MamyRock.com
Ruth Flowers, 69-year-old, is the matriarch and the hippest English deejay of our time.
I have had a very lively youth, I used to go to balls all the time, I loved to dance, but then came the old age, pension, but above all boredom… I started looking for something more… One night, my grandson, of whom I’m very close to, celebrated his birthday in a nightclub in London. And he told me that I could join them. When I arrived, the bouncers didn’t let me go inside. It is true that I didn’t really match their usual clients (laughs)… I finely managed to entered… and I was dumbfound…there was such an atmosphere!!! It was so different from the parties I used to go when I was young. There was a real osmosis between the lights and the music, it really drove me!… It made me feel so much younger!
This night shattered my view of things but above all the way I saw my life…I had a lot of free time, I was on pension you know… I talked to my grandson about it, he thought I went mad. Now I think that I am ready to make everybody move their a** on the dancefloor (laughs).
“Indeed, I’d rather sign a contract with a record company than to sign up for the nursing home…” – Ruth Flowers
So my questions to you are… What limitations have been placed on you by other people that you can break?What will you do today to live the life you want?
My Mastermind Rant – Focus on One Business First!
Posted by: | CommentsI’m grouchy.
A couple of weeks ago, I attended a Mastermind meeting with some incredibly successful entrepreneurs making millions a year… The very last person who shared told us all a very different story. Instead of focusing on ONE business and becoming successful at that, he had been trying to branch out to 5 different business niches over tha past couple of years. It was no surprise that he was making absolutely no money.
In fact, he was in a really bad place.
We all gave him tons of advice and asked him to please email us with what he promised he was going to do with the advice. (Million-Dollar advice from all of us, I might add)
We haven’t heard from him.
These are my thoughts about chasing too many businesses at once. Jeff filmed this at our Beach House on the balcony, so it’s pretty darn loud (and actually inspired me to begin using the Kodak Zi8 with a lavolier mic – which works incredibly – so please excuse the windy-ness)
We were just talking about this and it made me so angry and sad and so Jeff said “Let me just tape you on your rant…”
I suggested he begin with ONE niche, one way to add value, one product… ONE and then use Twitter, Facebook, YouTube, Ezine Articles (They’re all FREE!!!) to drive traffic to the site wherever his optin page (and offer) are… AND to stop thinking it will be INSTANT. Everyone thinks you can just slap up a page with an offer and (theme music to “Field of Dreams”) they will come… and if they come… they will buy…
Not so much.
They probably won’t buy at first, so you must Look at what’s really happening (Google Analytics can help you with that), see where the breakdown is happening & TEST.
* Are they coming to your site and not signing up? Change the optin offer to a more compelling & juicy one.
* Are they not buying, once they’re in your list community? Talk more about the benefits… Really do your homework on this one. Find some case studies so people can see the results.
* Are you doing any live online events so people can get to know you? Use a free teleseminar line or try the free trial of a webinar service (and be sure to press “record” to have something you can use over and over…) and do your presentation over and over until you nail it.
* Play the theme song to Rocky (or whatever moves you) to get pumped up each morning and keep moving forward with focus and faith.
Have you had failures…?
C’MON… it’s time to get over it and do whatever it takes to move forward. We all have. The most successful people have also had the most failures.
During that Mastermind, I got out of my chair several times, my arms swinging wildly, my voice getting louder trying to get him to see that he’s been chasing too many things at once… no wonder he’s not getting ANYWHERE.
Your past failures (and even your wild successes!) do NOT define you. The only thing that defines you is what you choose to do NOW.
I’m Thankful for Love…
Posted by: | CommentsAs we’re approaching the Thanksgiving and holiday season, I’m visiting family in Texas for a “pre-Thanksgiving” celebration with family and friends… I’ve still been working a ton while here, but making sure to take time for loved ones and friends. Yesterday I had a wonderful experience that showed me yet again… the best gifts, the ones that are most appreciated are free to give… love, kindness, understanding and compassion…
When I was about 9 years old, my parents finally started being successful in business after years of study and planning (and counting their pennies every single day) My Mom was the business manager and had to work a TON to get the business actually up and profitable. She made a difficult decision many working moms must face to get help.
Help came in the form of an 18 year old girl named Estella.
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My brother, Estella & I reunited! |
She helped a lot while my Mom and Dad busted their butts to build a business and live their purpose. Each night, I would yell after her, “I Love You Estella!”What I didn’t know at the time was that she had a very difficult childhood and this was the first time she had been given love so freely and frequently.
Yesterday, I saw her again after about 15 years and she told me just how much my love and affection, given so freely, changed her life. Although she had no one in terms of family at the time, it gave her strength to go out and make a life for herself and she says it helped her build her self-esteem. She now has two grown children and grandchildrena and it’s obvious love flows freely in her home. |
During this time of appreciation, I want to challenge you (& me!!) to be more free in giving out these gifts that mean so much… When was the last time you told someone “I love you?” or praised someone for their efforts or showed consideration and patience with a loved one, a student or a stranger… You NEVER know what’s going on in someone’s life and each interaction we have is an opportunity to lift others up or pull them down.
A few marketing teachers have questioned the way I sign off on all my emails… I always end with “Love, Maritza” – I may not personally communicate with all subscribers but I do wish them all love and success… and it sure works for me!
Online Business Advice: Teflon Coating Your Heart
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When you decide to take your products, services and business online… you must learn to “Teflon Coat” yourself!
The internet is such an amazing place to:
It also opens you up to criticism, condemnation and negativity from time to time… and people can do it in a completely “anonymous” way which makes them much meaner than they would probably be if speaking to you face to face. |
I didn’t attend Blog World Expo in Las Vegas this year (though next yer, I plan on attending) but I saw lots of people in my Twitterstream talking about what @AnthonyEdwards touched on… and it must have hit a nerve because people were tweeting up a storm about it!
From what I got in my twitterstream, he said “Please be more civil online”. When you interact with people, remember though it can seem a bit “impersonal” sometimes, there are people on both ends of the communication! Let’s pretend that every online interaction is a face to face one.
If you have an issue with someone online, either:
- If you don’t have anything nice to say, Don’t say anything at all. (ancient concept from Grandmothers all over the globe)
- If you do want to bring up a constructive criticism or debate, do so in a civil manner – just like you were standing face to face with the person, looking into their eyes!
Trying to be mean, cruel or “right” in an anonymous way just shows your true colors and is like throwing rocks and running to hide! No courage or personality needed whatsoever…
My advice to anyone who wants to start an online biz or be “visible” online, teflon coat your heart and focus on all the wonderful people out there because thankfully, they outnumber the trolls!
What is a “Troll” you ask…? Here’s a recent blog post from Seth Godin about trolls:
Trolls
Lots of things about work are hard. Dealing with trolls is one of them. Trolls are critics who gain perverse pleasure in relentlessly tearing you and your ideas down. Here’s the thing(s):
1. trolls will always be trolling
2. critics rarely create
3. they live in a tiny echo chamber, ignored by everyone except the trolled and the other trolls
4. professionals (that’s you) get paid to ignore them. It’s part of your job.
“Can’t please everyone,” isn’t just an aphorism, it’s the secret of being remarkable. Here’s his blog)
Sometimes, we all let trolls get to us… but remember when someone upsets you… they are the ones who must live with themselves and that must be a “super sucky” (actual word) place to live…
And don’t ever let anyone stop you from being a Remarkable You!
212 Degrees Movie – Are You Willing to Do Whatever It Takes…?
Posted by: | CommentsI LOVE this movie so much… It was created by a friend of mine Scott Stratten (a genius!) who has recently created a movie out of some of my writing that will be released soon to over 1.5 million viewers! Very Exciting…
Can’t wait to share it with you and I thought I would share this spectacular video with you today…
We ALL sometimes feel like giving up… NO ONE is immune to that feeling…
Don’t ever give up…
You may be right on the verge…
Look for the open door…
Go the extra degree today…
There are only 90 days left in the year. Make them count!
Love,
Maritza
What Kind of Gifts Are You Giving…?
Posted by: | Comments| Your words of love and kindness are gifts you can choose to give freely or you can withhold them or pass them out like crumbs every once in a while…You have an unlimited and free supply of these gifts. You can choose to give out no gifts at all by being negative and judgmental of yourself and others. You can choose to give teensy weensy tiny gifts every once in a while because you may think no one is doing anything to really deserve those gifts! Or you can choose to hand out large, beautiful gifts freely to anyone and everyone you come into contact with just because it makes you feel good. Everyone deserves the gifts of your supportive words simply because they exist! Why do we sometimes withhold the gifts of our kind and loving words to those who are closest to us? (…including ourselves!) |
 You Have Unlimited Gifts... |
You’re either giving beautiful gifts each time you open your mouth to speak or you’re giving nothing. You can give the gift of your words to the people you love, people at work, even to strangers you’ll only meet once. Those gifts are very important and serve not only to spread joy to others, but really to yourself!
The most important gift you’ll ever give yourself is the gift of Accepting and Acknowledging Your Own Genius. You do this with your own internal self talk. Everyone is special, everyone has extraordinary talents. It may be in a specific field of expertise or something as important as being a wonderful Mother, Father or friend…
The question is
Are you accepting and cultivating your gifts?
Don’t hide your light under a bushel” Don’t be afraid of standing out too much, of wondering what people think if you insist on spreading kindness and joy wherever you go… Will people get annoyed and let you know? Yes! Just remember it doesn’t take talent to be a critic. Negative and judgmental does not equal witty and intelligent. And let it go…
Don’t hide all your gifts to better fit in to a “mold”. What will truly make you happy is to follow your passion, fulfill your purpose, uplift others and grow the gifts you’ve been given. And remember to celebrate with others when they share their gifts too!
Remember your supply of gifts is unlimited!
