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I’m Thankful for Love…
Posted by: | CommentsAs we’re approaching the Thanksgiving and holiday season, I’m visiting family in Texas for a “pre-Thanksgiving” celebration with family and friends… I’ve still been working a ton while here, but making sure to take time for loved ones and friends. Yesterday I had a wonderful experience that showed me yet again… the best gifts, the ones that are most appreciated are free to give… love, kindness, understanding and compassion…
When I was about 9 years old, my parents finally started being successful in business after years of study and planning (and counting their pennies every single day) My Mom was the business manager and had to work a TON to get the business actually up and profitable. She made a difficult decision many working moms must face to get help.
Help came in the form of an 18 year old girl named Estella.
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My brother, Estella & I reunited! |
She helped a lot while my Mom and Dad busted their butts to build a business and live their purpose. Each night, I would yell after her, “I Love You Estella!”What I didn’t know at the time was that she had a very difficult childhood and this was the first time she had been given love so freely and frequently.
Yesterday, I saw her again after about 15 years and she told me just how much my love and affection, given so freely, changed her life. Although she had no one in terms of family at the time, it gave her strength to go out and make a life for herself and she says it helped her build her self-esteem. She now has two grown children and grandchildrena and it’s obvious love flows freely in her home. |
During this time of appreciation, I want to challenge you (& me!!) to be more free in giving out these gifts that mean so much… When was the last time you told someone “I love you?” or praised someone for their efforts or showed consideration and patience with a loved one, a student or a stranger… You NEVER know what’s going on in someone’s life and each interaction we have is an opportunity to lift others up or pull them down.
A few marketing teachers have questioned the way I sign off on all my emails… I always end with “Love, Maritza” – I may not personally communicate with all subscribers but I do wish them all love and success… and it sure works for me!
Online Business Advice: Teflon Coating Your Heart
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When you decide to take your products, services and business online… you must learn to “Teflon Coat” yourself!
The internet is such an amazing place to:
It also opens you up to criticism, condemnation and negativity from time to time… and people can do it in a completely “anonymous” way which makes them much meaner than they would probably be if speaking to you face to face. |
I didn’t attend Blog World Expo in Las Vegas this year (though next yer, I plan on attending) but I saw lots of people in my Twitterstream talking about what @AnthonyEdwards touched on… and it must have hit a nerve because people were tweeting up a storm about it!
From what I got in my twitterstream, he said “Please be more civil online”. When you interact with people, remember though it can seem a bit “impersonal” sometimes, there are people on both ends of the communication! Let’s pretend that every online interaction is a face to face one.
If you have an issue with someone online, either:
- If you don’t have anything nice to say, Don’t say anything at all. (ancient concept from Grandmothers all over the globe)
- If you do want to bring up a constructive criticism or debate, do so in a civil manner – just like you were standing face to face with the person, looking into their eyes!
Trying to be mean, cruel or “right” in an anonymous way just shows your true colors and is like throwing rocks and running to hide! No courage or personality needed whatsoever…
My advice to anyone who wants to start an online biz or be “visible” online, teflon coat your heart and focus on all the wonderful people out there because thankfully, they outnumber the trolls!
What is a “Troll” you ask…? Here’s a recent blog post from Seth Godin about trolls:
Trolls
Lots of things about work are hard. Dealing with trolls is one of them. Trolls are critics who gain perverse pleasure in relentlessly tearing you and your ideas down. Here’s the thing(s):
1. trolls will always be trolling
2. critics rarely create
3. they live in a tiny echo chamber, ignored by everyone except the trolled and the other trolls
4. professionals (that’s you) get paid to ignore them. It’s part of your job.
“Can’t please everyone,” isn’t just an aphorism, it’s the secret of being remarkable. Here’s his blog)
Sometimes, we all let trolls get to us… but remember when someone upsets you… they are the ones who must live with themselves and that must be a “super sucky” (actual word) place to live…
And don’t ever let anyone stop you from being a Remarkable You!
212 Degrees Movie – Are You Willing to Do Whatever It Takes…?
Posted by: | CommentsI LOVE this movie so much… It was created by a friend of mine Scott Stratten (a genius!) who has recently created a movie out of some of my writing that will be released soon to over 1.5 million viewers! Very Exciting…
Can’t wait to share it with you and I thought I would share this spectacular video with you today…
We ALL sometimes feel like giving up… NO ONE is immune to that feeling…
Don’t ever give up…
You may be right on the verge…
Look for the open door…
Go the extra degree today…
There are only 90 days left in the year. Make them count!
Love,
Maritza
What Kind of Gifts Are You Giving…?
Posted by: | Comments| Your words of love and kindness are gifts you can choose to give freely or you can withhold them or pass them out like crumbs every once in a while…You have an unlimited and free supply of these gifts. You can choose to give out no gifts at all by being negative and judgmental of yourself and others. You can choose to give teensy weensy tiny gifts every once in a while because you may think no one is doing anything to really deserve those gifts! Or you can choose to hand out large, beautiful gifts freely to anyone and everyone you come into contact with just because it makes you feel good. Everyone deserves the gifts of your supportive words simply because they exist! Why do we sometimes withhold the gifts of our kind and loving words to those who are closest to us? (…including ourselves!) |
 You Have Unlimited Gifts... |
You’re either giving beautiful gifts each time you open your mouth to speak or you’re giving nothing. You can give the gift of your words to the people you love, people at work, even to strangers you’ll only meet once. Those gifts are very important and serve not only to spread joy to others, but really to yourself!
The most important gift you’ll ever give yourself is the gift of Accepting and Acknowledging Your Own Genius. You do this with your own internal self talk. Everyone is special, everyone has extraordinary talents. It may be in a specific field of expertise or something as important as being a wonderful Mother, Father or friend…
The question is
Are you accepting and cultivating your gifts?
Don’t hide your light under a bushel” Don’t be afraid of standing out too much, of wondering what people think if you insist on spreading kindness and joy wherever you go… Will people get annoyed and let you know? Yes! Just remember it doesn’t take talent to be a critic. Negative and judgmental does not equal witty and intelligent. And let it go…
Don’t hide all your gifts to better fit in to a “mold”. What will truly make you happy is to follow your passion, fulfill your purpose, uplift others and grow the gifts you’ve been given. And remember to celebrate with others when they share their gifts too!
Remember your supply of gifts is unlimited!
