How to overcome your inner critic
We all have one.
An inner critic.
That nagging little (and sometimes BIG) voice of self-doubt, self-judgment and negativity.
One of the most important keys that separates successful business owners from those who are not is being able to manage and quiet that negative inner critic.
You must do this, or you will always miss the mark on the goals you set for your business.
Here are a few ways to quiet and overcome your inner critic, so you can keep moving forward with confidence and courage to create the business and life of your dreams.
1. Focus on and develop your strengths.
What are you great at? Write them down. If you’re not sure what they are, ask other people you’ve worked with to give you your 2 – 3 best qualities. You’ll be surprised what they come up with.
When your inner critic starts tearing you down, whip out your list of strengths and qualities. Celebrate your wins. Notice what you did right. When you have a failure, it’s time to look at it (WITHOUT) beating yourself up to see what could have been done better next time. It’s all about testing, tweaking, testing, tweaking.
2. Do things that are out of your comfort zone.
There is absolutely no better way to feel amazing and empowered than by doing things that scare you and are out of your comfort zone. Push yourself. Ok, I don’t mean jumping out of an airplane (though if that works for you, go for it…)
I mean things that stretch you way past your comfort zone. Things that you would like to avoid. Things that you think people will judge you for.
For example, public speaking, taking up an instrument or learning to sing, doing an athletic activity you never thought you’d participate in, asking for money in exchange for something you created, raising your fees, taming or dealing with an animal that scares you a little.
I’ve done all of the above!
This is one of the most awful ways people can beat up on themselves.
3. Stop detrimental comparisons.
By comparing your b-roll with other people highlight reel.
It’s easier than ever to do now that social media has made it so easy for people to share the highlights of their life. Don’t engage in these types of comparisons. You have no idea what’s going on in someone else’s life. Your only job is to compare yourself to how you did last year, last month, last week, yesterday… and strive to do better each day.
When you feel the green-eyed jealousy comparison monster bubbling up… look for something, anything to appreciate with the person you’re comparing yourself to…
4. Appreciate – Life isn’t perfect but there can always be something to appreciate through the bad times. Try starting a Journal of Appreciation, writing a few lines or a page each day of what you have to appreciate. Sometimes, it might just be that you are breathing or the sun is shining. This can help you focus on the good in your life so you can keep putting one foot in front of the other.
5. Create a positive environment. This will support your new habit of being positive and focused on what you can do, rather than what you cannot do. Here’s a few ways to do that…
Surround yourself with and listen to people who encourage your dreams. Be careful who you share your dreams with, especially friends and family. Unfortunately, most of the time, they know all of our human weaknesses and warts. They try to keep up from hearing the “no’s” for the same reason we try to avoid hearing them – because they can be painful. They love us and want to help us avoid the pain of hearing “no”. But, they can keep up firmly rooted in exactly where we are, instead of finding the golden “yeses”. Find a community who believes in and is striving for the same kinds of dreams. Give and receive encouragement to those in that community.
There will be people who criticize you online, be prepared for it. Be sure to Teflon coat your heart against trolls and don’t join them by criticizing yourself! There’s a big difference between thoughtfully looking at how you could have done something different and better and being a troll to yourself!
Listen to positive, uplifting messages that give you courage. There are many places online you could hear negativity, complaints, laments and receive discouragement. There are all kinds of shows and entertainment that highlights the basest, most judgmental of human emotions.
Negativity, violence, disaster and discouragement.
Steer clear of these. Really…
My advice is to avoid those forms of “entertainment” and look for ones that uplift you.
I challenge you to try these tips for 90 days. Write them down, print them out.
And when you hear your inner critic start up, use them and see what miracles you can create in your business and life.