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What I Can Can Control Doodle Video

This time last year I put on my Divine Scientist hat on and did a “Belief Experiment” with practicing the belief that Everything is Sacred. 🙏🏼💗

That Experiment helped me cultivate a new, deeper layer of self- love, mindfulness (in thought, emotion, action) and new simple ways to honor myself.

Belief Experiments

This year, I’m experimenting with uncovering my most practiced, neural-pathway traveled, ingrained limiting beliefs.

In my book Heartwork Journaling, I describe the process of being a Divine Scientist in your life and experimenting with your beliefs. 🧪 🧫 🧬 (You can get a free chapter of Heartwork Journaling here including the info on being a Divine Scientist.)

Question Everything

question everything

Instead of accepting cultural teachings and societal programming, what if you questioned EVERYTHING in order to come up with your own empowering, self-loving and self-compassionate beliefs?

Most especially, question yourself.

Because in order to create the life you want, you’re going to have to look inside and create it from the inside out.

To do that, first you’ve got to get super clear on what you can control and what you cannot control.

What You Can Control

  • your thoughts
  • your emotions
  • your actions

What You Can’t Control

You definitely do not have control over:

  • the media
  • the past (including what may have happened to you or yucky results you created)
  • other people (even though we try in oh so subtle, “kind” & “helpful” ways – more on this soon!)
  • world events
  • what other people think of you
  • our loved ones

emotionsIt’s so easy to say “yes, I know” or “yup, that makes sense” but knowledge and application of knowledge are two ENTIRELY different things.

If you’ve gotten triggered, offended, rage-y or hurt this week, there is room for growth in the application of knowledge area.

Believe me… I’ve been looking at that in myself when I’ve felt any of those things and it’s been humbling, enlightening and SUPER exciting!

Experiment for you this week.

When you want to react negatively to something or someone, ask yourself “Is this something I can control?”

Just notice if what you’re trying to control falls into one of the only 3 things we can control.

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  1. Rita on February 22, 2019 at 4:49 pm

    I usually ask myself in every situation: How can I control this?
    You are making me aware that I can’t control everything and that is OK.
    You are giving me permission to accept that there are situations that I can NOT control.
    I should put my efforts into what I can control. So liberating. Thank you Maritza.

    • Maritza Parra on February 22, 2019 at 7:01 pm

      love your choice of words so much Rita – liberating indeed! <3

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