4 Tips to Bust Through Upper Limit Problems
Things are going great. Things are going magically, in fact.
Better than you imagined. Ease and joy and clients and purpose.
And then it happens.
Everything feels like it’s falling apart.
You’ve just hit your “Upper Limit”.
This is a term from Gay Henrick’s book, The Big Leap.
He says everyone has an inner thermostat. That thermostat is where you set how much love, happiness, success and money you feel you DESERVE.
If you go beyond this self-imposed limit, you do something to sabotage yourself so that you go back down to that old and familiar feeling level.
Have you ever let your Upper Limit Stop You?
Of course you have.
We all have… it’s especially easy when you’re an entrepreneur and the master of your own destiny.
That Upper Limit sabotage might come in the form of getting sick, drama in your relationship (or elsewhere), massive overwhelm and paralysis or other not-so-fun things.
We all do this! It’s ok AND you must find ways to break through your Upper Limit to grow into the person who has the business you want.
4 Things to do when you think you may be experiencing Upper Limit discomfort.
1) Forgive yourself.
Realize it’s all part of getting comfortable being uncomfortable and that is a VITAL part of being an entrepreneur. It’s ok to feel the fear and discomfort. Don’t add to it by being hard on yourself. Be kind to yourself.
It’s a great idea when you are NOT experiencing Upper Limit Problems to put a “break glass in case of emergency” plan.
This could be anything from creating a cocooning ritual of your own, going into full rest and rejuvenation mode, going into reflection mode with a journal (I recommend doing a Journal of Appreciation – more on that in Tip 2), engaging in physical movement, having an emergency buddy for social support.
2) Radical appreciation
Try to find things to feel appreciation and things you are grateful for. That always gets me out of a funk and into movement. I usually do a Journal of Appreciation and fill a page with things to appreciate.
When you’re in the middle of an Upper Limit moment, you might just be able to say “I appreciate the sun today” or “I appreciate the sound of the birds” and it may feel difficult.
When it becomes difficult for me to find things to appreciate, I always find someone who needs my help. This always shifts things for me.
My neighbor Mr Aldrige was this person for many years. His wife and only son had passed away, he was homebound and on medication. A visit from me always lifted his spirits.
The truth is, those visits fed my soul more.
3) Be very aware of the 3 C’s.
The 3 C’s are from Dale Carnegie and they are “Don’t Criticize, Condemn or Complain”.
When you’ve smashed headlong into your Upper Limit, it’s easy to be critical of everything, especially of yourself.
This is a time to make the effort to lean towards the positive, however slightly.
4) Look at ONLY the next baby steps.
Sometimes, when you look at your big dreams in the BIG picture it feels daunting and SO non-doable.
Just focus on the next baby step.
Then take the baby step.
I always think of the first marathon I ran.
If I had thought about running 26.2 miles, I NEVER would have begun. When training, I could only think of the next baby step, and the next, and the next… and I tried to celebrate as many as I could.
When experiencing an Upper Limit, re-focus on the baby steps to keep moving through it.
A couple of days ago I experienced a client going through her Upper Limit. She’s been doing incredible things and there’s so much more on the horizon if she can get through to the other side.
Everything is always working out for me…
It’s ok to grow and feel uncomfortable…
It’s ok to become the bigger me that I am becoming…
I can trust myself.”
Being an entrepreneur is one of the hardest and most fulfilling personal development journeys you will ever undertake.
Keep going because it is WORTH pushing through your self-imposed limits to shine your light in the world.
As always, with love and appreciation!