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Overcome Your Inner Critic with a Simple Tip…

We all have that inner critic. I don’t care who you are…

Pesky Inner Critics show up at the very WORST times…

It seems that when we want to do big things that pesky critic gets LOUDER!

I’ve experienced it myself many times…

  • starting my horse show business
  • becoming a professional singer (my High School choir teacher kicked me off the choir because I “couldn’t sing”)
  • taking art classes and then selling my first piece of art
  • starting and growing multiple businesses (in different industries – horses, education, physical products, spirituality and self development and marketing)
  • when I wanted to start dating again after my divorce…
  • ANYTIME I’m getting out of my comfort zone…

I have a feeling this might be true for you, too.

Your Pesky Inner Critic

I get to meet a lot of different “pesky inner critics” who belong to my coaching and consulting clients when they get scared on the road to following their dreams.

Having big dreams takes “cojones” as my dear Spanish-speaking Dad would say…

It takes little daily practices, tips and tricks to support you along the way…

A Simple Tip that Works

Here’s a super simple, YET effective tip to help you become more conscious of those habitual negative pesky inner critic tapes so that you can tap into the possibilities instead of allowing those tapes to run wild.

When your inner critic takes over, it can show up as procrastination, perfectionism, self-judgement (and seriously judging others), fear, crawling into bed to binge-watch your favorite show while cuddling a cold pint of Ben & Jerry’s – which are all blocks to success. ūüôā

Next time you wonder:

“Who am I to be the expert?!”

“I’m not sure anyone would buy from me!”

“Why did I [fill-in-the-blanks]?”

Or anything similar, try this¬†little rubber band trick…

It’s important because YOU have GIFTS that NO ONE ELSE in the WORLD can CREATE.

Are you up to the challenge?

There are other methods I’ve used as a pattern break to stop “pesky inner critic” from taking over… Sometimes I cycle through several of them when I need a LOT of courage!

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Have you found another way to overcome your inner critic? Please share in the comments below!


  1. Maritza Parra on August 20, 2014 at 3:08 pm

    I’d love to know any tricks you use to quite your “pesky inner critic”!

    • Aneta ThinkOfAll on September 2, 2016 at 3:52 am

      Maritza, thank you for addressing the presence of this lit’l gremlin in our heads as we entrepreneurs and business leaders forge forward into unknown territory. The best idea I would add is to treat the ‘little’ inner critic voice as a child inside of me who represents fear of the unknown and when *it* utters a negative thought, I/ (meaning my higher half of myself who has the final vote) acknowledge its fear or criticism of the future, yet ‘do it anyway’ and maintain the lead in all I do. I love your suggestion to flip a “Who do you think you ARE? You CAN’T do THAT” to asking yourself/myself “How CAN I do that”? Great idea! You are so cool!

  2. Chris on August 20, 2014 at 3:25 pm

    Dear Maritza, I agree, we all suffer from Pesky Critic Syndrome to some degree.
    I gladly accept the challenge, find the lessons, turn toward positive and why not?
    Try the rubber band as a reminder…Sometimes simple is good.
    Thank you for the great post.

    • Maritza Parra on August 20, 2014 at 5:24 pm

      Chris, Pesky Critic Syndrome! I love it!

  3. David Durand, M.D. on August 20, 2014 at 3:29 pm

    Great video Maritza! You are right that negative thinking is just a habit like any other habit. People who beat themselves up often do it over and over, day in and out. Time to stop! That sort of risk snapping interrupter, as Tony Robbins called it, can help people reset their consciousness and turn it higher to focus on positive goals and outcomes as you explain. Verbal interrupters can work as well. Just saying “Little negative ego, go away” (just being firm, not in anger, as that will tend to backfire) when you have a negative thought can start the same reset process. Using what works for you is the key.

    • Maritza Parra on August 20, 2014 at 5:26 pm

      David, SO great to “see” you again! Love your advice to use what works for you – Sending you a great big virtual hug!! Maritza

  4. Frank Gustafson (@fgustafson) on August 20, 2014 at 3:30 pm

    My inner-critic has held me down MANY times. “Create a pattern break” Great advice Maritza!

    • Maritza Parra on August 20, 2014 at 8:11 pm

      Frank I’m sure you have a lot of bold ways you’ve used to dispatch your inner critic!

  5. Laura on August 20, 2014 at 3:41 pm

    Sometimes I feel uneasy and insecure about a project and it takes me a while to recognize that my inner critic is hard at work.
    I need to adopt your tactics to fight it quickly before it sucks my energy and as you say: turn it around and shift to positive thoughts and actions.
    Thank you Maritza. The timing of this video is perfect for me.

    • Maritza Parra on August 20, 2014 at 8:12 pm

      Laura, yep, that’s one of the many ways we let that critical voice keep us small! Use this trick and see what happens for you.

  6. Christine on August 20, 2014 at 3:57 pm

    I don’t have a pesky little critic but a great big one with a megaphone! Great idea to keep picking it up and doing a pivot. Don’t let the critic win, there’s too much at stake.

    • Maritza Parra on August 20, 2014 at 8:14 pm

      Christine, Oh, yes, I’ve had the megaphone treatment in the past too ūüėČ and you’re right, there’s too much at stake, personally and professionally to let the critic win!

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  8. Brad Wachter on August 20, 2014 at 10:29 pm

    Great advice Maritza!

    • Maritza Parra on August 21, 2014 at 12:29 pm

      Brad, I hope you’re doing amazing!

  9. Charlie Poznek on August 21, 2014 at 5:38 am

    Wow Maritza, I love your rubber band trick! What a great way to stay conscious and train yourself to recognize the inner critic.

  10. Paul Colaianni on August 21, 2014 at 10:37 am

    Ha ha mini shock therapy! Love it. I’ve also practiced adding words to my self talk. For example when I find myself saying something negative like ‘I’m so stupid’ I’ll follow it up with something like, ‘but I’m working on being more aware of that in myself, and learning to love myself more and more.’

    love the pattern break idea, will have to try it! Thanks a lot. ‚ėļ

  11. Anthony Tran on August 21, 2014 at 4:03 pm

    When I hear those inner critic voices in my head … I tell myself “IF YOU CAN’T… YOU MUST!” I know that when I get nervous about something it’s because I’m about to have a breakthrough and growth opportunity in my business

  12. Jessica Raymond on August 21, 2014 at 9:01 pm

    Great tip Maritza. I will give it a try!

  13. Justin Williams on August 21, 2014 at 10:43 pm

    This is great, Maritza! The “How Can I” shifting really does work coz’ it lets you focus on what can be done rather than being a victim of the situation. Thanks!

  14. Sandy Donovan on August 22, 2014 at 7:57 pm

    Great advice on how to remind yourself to become a “possibilitarian.” I think as you said, the first step is being aware. Sometimes, I don’t even notice.

  15. Amber Hurdle on August 26, 2014 at 11:40 am

    ‚ÄčT‚Äčhose critics play a big role on what we can ‚Äčbring ‚Äčto the table. ‚ÄčI know I’m so fortunate to have a tight business circle to help me shut that critic up when she starts to get a foothold! ‚Äč‚Äč

  16. Celest Horton on September 6, 2014 at 5:05 pm

    My inner critic is always annoying me! I love your idea to help break my pattern and I am going to give it a try. Thanks so much Maritza for all that you do!!

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